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I think part of it is because it is much more difficult in the beginning to breast-feed. I am currently breastfeeding twins, and have many strong reasons for doing so, but for others looking down on formula feeding may be part of their motivation to continue breastfeeding. I don’t care if others give formula, but no way in hell am I going to do it. And I have to feel strongly about it to put up with people like my mom telling me “go back to bed, go back to bed, just go back to bed” when I get up to breastfeed and she wants to give them formula.
I think the formula feeders we know give us the breastfeeders hell about breastfeeding too though. At least my mom isn’t very supportive of it. She says she supports it, then says things like “you’ll have to stop when you get sore”, “you better have formula on hand for when you need it”, “you need to sleep instead of breastfeed every 3 hours or you’ll get depressed and very fat”, “your cousins couldn’t do it”, and “I think you’re only breastfeeding because you don’t want to pay for formula”. Also breastfeeding in the same room as my dad really bothered him even though I was covered by a receiving blanket.
So it does go both ways.
I know one of the things that does drive breastfeeders nuts is when formula feeders give false excuses for formula feeding. Like they don’t produce enough. It is supply and demand, and the act of giving formula makes it so you don’t have enough supply. The only way that makes sense is if the person is pumping / nursing for more than 30 minutes x 12 times a day and their child is still losing weight. If you are doing that then you truly are simply unable to make enough. Sometimes people want their babies fatter / more content then nature makes them. Thus they think they don’t make enough, when they really do.
I am breastfeeding 10 hours a day. Twins, 30 minutes each every 2 hours, 3 hours during my 3 daily sleep sessions. I do occasionally give formula when one has been feeding for 45 minute sessions more than 3 times in a row. I would eventually make enough to cover this, but I use the formula then for conveinience. I have a double electric pump now though, so will simply add in pumping sessions and ditch formula now.

I think what is frustrating is that a lot of people don’t breastfeed just because it seems too hard and they don’t get support. Baby formula “keeping them full for longer” is one of those myths that get circulated so that people think they are depriving their babies, or they will get more sleep if they formula feed (definitely not true with my kids!). Baby formula is just more difficult for baby to digest, it doesn’t keep them fuller for longer, tho it is much easier to overfeed a formula fed baby.
I guess maybe they go crazy because some breastfeeding advocates see formula feeding as not persevering enough with BF?? – personally I don’t think it really matters too much how the baby gets their food as long as both mum and baby are happy and healthy.
But I do think there is a lack of support for breastfeeding mothers, who give up or don’t try because of it. Lots of mothers give up for the “work” reason – where is is still possible to BF and work with the right support in the workplace and home. Just as easy for a caregiver to give breastmilk in a bottle as it is to give formula but not many employers are very supportive of mothers pumping at work. Breastmilk is free, and with the melamine formula tragedy in china last year it is possible could be a safer choice.
I guess I think that everybody should have the support to be able to make the choice. Often breastfeeding, while the better choice nutritionally, is the more difficult choice logistically especially if working.
I don’t think getting angry at BF or formula feeders serves any purpose at all.

The facts about breastfeeding make a lot of women passionate. So passionate about the greater good of a baby getting these benefits that they would push their views about it onto anyone. No boundaries, being absolutely annoying, but not caring about it because if they can convince that person to breastfeed, they were successful. It’s not about people liking you. It’s about hoping they will do this for their baby, because it would be worth it. The benefits are definitely something to be crazy about, and they outweigh any benefits of formula to such a degree that they are virtually incomparable. I know you’re biased because your mother did it, and you’re naturally defensive. And that’s okay. Breastfeeding doesn’t work out for everyone. Sometimes it’s just not right for a particular mother. You’re being defensive of invisible opposition here. No one is going to condemn a formula feeding mother to hell. No one has the right to judge anyone else’s circumstances. But please do not call those who breastfeed crazy. It’s just not nice.

I don’t think the problem is that they use formula. Formula was intended for mothers who can’t breast feed or as a plan b. Now, it’s being used because the mom simply doesn’t want to or is too lazy. I mean it’s fine if you psychically can’t or have VERY bad memories such as child molestation or something which I have heard about sometimes deters mothers from breastfeeding but, doing it simply for your connivance is stupid for lack of better words.
What I like to see from mom’s is some effort. Try it out. If you only do it for a month or two so be it at least you TRYED. I pumped for 15 months which wasn’t the easiest thing but, I did it for the overall health of my baby. I know whats in my breast milk, that there are 0 preservatives, it has omegas, and etc.
BTW, Formula does not keep babies full longer. Babies would loose weight if that was the case.
ETA: When it comes down to it, it’s their bodies. Just like abortion they can do what THEY want. With a self absorbed culture we live in everything is MY BABY, MY DECISION, MY PARENTING, and etc. I believe it takes a village to raise a child, opinions and all. Don’t get me wronge I don’t see much wrong with formula but, I still think overall it should be a second choice.

I know what you mean. I breastfeed AND formula feed my 2 month old because I don’t produce enough milk.. I went to several lactation nurses and talked to two pediatricians and my regular OB and cannot get my supply up.. with this said in most my questions I still get attacked for not solely breastfeeding it is so ridicules. I think moms in general think they know what is not only best for their baby but because they are moms they know what is best for Other peoples babies to. I understand why they feel so strongly but in the end it is still My baby My rules.

some people are just CRAZY
now in a crazy persons life, at some point, breastfeeding is a thing to be crazy about, so they just continue being crazy