September 7th, 2010 • 21:09
Is It Normal To Feel Nervous About Your Wedding.?
I will have been with my partner 7 years when we get married next year. Th closer the wedding gets, the more nervous I feel, but I cant put my finger on what Im nervous about. Part of it is about the day going pear shaped after so much planning and another is the actual thought of being married. Anyone else get this or know what I mean?
Sep 7th 2010 • 22:09
by Wedding and Events Planner Lynds
its called cold feet, wedding jitters, many names, but its natural. most people get this before their wedding, its one thing to be with someone for years but when it comes to making it official it feels like a big step and then the other part is things going wrong after all your preparation and hard work.
Sep 7th 2010 • 23:09
by Chloe
Of course!
In the buildup of months before my wedding, both I and my partner dreaded arrangements and I remember breaking down a crying on my own no les than twice over nerves, thinking “In a month, I’ll be married”.
However, this all fades. Getting dressed up, seeing your partner and going through the vows is all very calming, and once that’s over, you completely relax and enjoy the reception. In the run up hours, you’ll be very nervous, but I doubt you’d want to leave, so just tell yourself its organised, and you should get it over with. Once you take the first step, down the aisle, its just wonderful and you’ll find yourself laughing at how nervous you were over something you’ll overall enjoy.
Sep 8th 2010 • 00:09
by BohBee
It’s the big day that every girl dreams about. So it’s normal to be nervous and very excited.
Sep 8th 2010 • 00:09
by Tushar
of course that is normal…..dont worry…!!
let me tell you a small story which would make you feel better…..me and my partner have been together for 8 years before we got married…yet when our marriage was fixed both me and my partner were kind of cold….
u feel nervous for sure…..you dont know what you are heading for….u want things to work fine…but looking at things around, u get a lot of mixed feelings…..dont worry, maintain your calm and everything would be fine.
and yes, best of luck for your marriage…!! have a happy married life ahead…my best wishes….!!
Sep 8th 2010 • 00:09
by Princess Bee
dont worry, you are totally normal. You need to be nervous – it shows you are thinking about hte committment you are planning to make. Good for you
Sep 8th 2010 • 00:09
by Libby
Oh, goodness, I was a WRECK! I’d been with my partner 7 years, too, but I was still a mess. And despite all the planning, I had some significant disasters.
Fortunately, we have really amazing friends (and spouses of friends) who busted their butts to save the day. That’s the awesome thing about weddings… your loved ones understand how big of a deal it is. They’ll work miracles for you to make you happy. =)
Sep 8th 2010 • 00:09
by Messykat
Here’s the way I look at it. There are 3 main reasons people get twitchy before weddings. Two are perfectly understandable, and the third may be a bit of a red flag. The good news is, you picked Doors 1 and 2
Of course you worry about the day itself and what could go wrong. And this will get worse. But you’ll live – we all do.
And of course you worry about the commitment and the change in your life. I’d worry about someone who did NOT think about this.
The third is questions about the groom, or whether he’s the right person. These are the more troubling, but if it was the case with you, you would have mentioned it.
Sep 8th 2010 • 00:09
by Newlywed
I have been with my husband for almost 6 years now (married last month). I wasn’t that nervous until a few hours before the actual wedding. I couldn’t eat, I felt funny…it was crazy. Walking down the aisle, I almost started crying. But as soon as I saw my husband, it all went away! I didn’t cry once during the wedding and everyone kept saying that they thought I was gonna lose it when they saw me, but I held it together!
I was more nervous about all the things that were going to change in my life. I lived with my parents my whole life so for the first time in my life, I was going to be on my own (with my husband). But the adjustment has been REALLY easy!
Also, try not to stress the small stuff about the wedding. Things go wrong but you just have to let it go and go with the flow. At my wedding, they played the wrong into song at the reception and call my fiancee by his brothers name. We had mini cakes as some of the centerpieces and they forgot to put out the plates for the cakes and the serving pieces. But honestly, no one notices but you. And everyone still though the day was awesome! Just focus on the good parts!
I’m sure you will be fine once the day comes and you see your hubby to be for the first time!
Sep 8th 2010 • 01:09
by sashtou
I can imagine anyone easily becoming nervous about the event, BUT particularly when you say > the day going pear shaped after so much planning <.
So, you want to ‘Plan’ everything, good. But the trouble comes when plans get screwed up because some thing does not work or someone is late / not there / falls ill or falls over, and that puts everything else out of ‘synchronisation’. In other words, The Great the Plan, then the More Chances there are of things going Wrong.
Personally, apart from the NEEDED time table, I’d likely ”Plan” nothing more, but instead, just intend to do this / that etc.
I hope things go well for you.
Sash.
Sep 8th 2010 • 02:09
by californ
Yes, it is totally normal to be nervous. Your life is about to change forever.
Sep 8th 2010 • 02:09
by **Kesha*
I will have been with my partner 7 years when we get married next year. Th closer the wedding gets, the more nervous I feel, but I cant put my finger on what Im nervous about. Part of it is about the day going pear shaped after so much planning and another is the actual thought of being married. Anyone else get this or know what I mean?
Sep 8th 2010 • 02:09
by Kelsey
Its completely fine to get nervous. I think everyone gets nervous before their wedding. You want everything to go right and you want it to be perfect ad you don’t want to have a bad marriage. Just remember why you are doing this. If you need to make a list of like 20 reasons why you are marrying him and keep it in your wallet or something so when you get nervous you can go over them it might help lesson the nerves and stress. I hope this helps =)
Sep 8th 2010 • 03:09
by Cara an chait
It’s normal. Don’t worry about things going wrong on the day. A wedding is just one day – marriage is for life. I’d rather have things go wrong on the day and have a happy marriage than have a perfect wedding day and every day after miserable. Best of luck to you both – I hope you have a long and happy marriage.
Sep 8th 2010 • 03:09
by Kung Fu Panda Sucks
Everyone’s nervous when they get married. It’s one of the marriage stereo-types.
Sep 8th 2010 • 03:09
by Avery
yea everyone gets nervous and thinks to far ahead just think of now and ur man/women and how much you have been through
Sep 8th 2010 • 03:09
by Tricia G
It’s normal.
Don’t worry too much about things not going perfectly according to plan. As long as you hire professionals and focus on the basics, you’ll be fine. The professionals do this stuff for a living.
And just be flexible. Even if things aren’t 100% perfect, no one would ever notice.